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Temptations can turn into a vicious circle
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“I
generally avoid temptation, unless I can’t resist it”, this famous quote by
American actress Mae West urged me to
think about the temptations that entice young men and women of today or to be
more specific the single men and women of this era.
Temptation
is not a negative word per se. For instance, a temptation to eat street food,
walk in the rain or take an afternoon nap are simple desires that can be easily
fulfilled. However some temptations can be menacing in terms of
creating
fissures in a relationship. In the 2nd part of this series, let’s
look at the temptations that ought to be avoided by single men and women who
are in a relationship/dating. Needless to say, these are my personal
observations and if there are any lacunae, please feel free to rectify
I me myself
– If most of your conversation revolves
around I, Me and myself, your partner may feel unwanted and bitter towards you
which may culminate into an argument . The temptation to talk about your life,
your work or your future plans can be irresistible but do so in moderation.
Gift of the gab is a remarkable trait however it should be used to fortify a
relationship instead of weakening it.
Infidelity- There are some unwritten
rules that govern a relationship; the most prominent one being faithfulness.
The temptation to stray in a relationship may loom large for both unmarried couples
and married ones as it is easy to trespass the thin line which separates
fidelity from unfaithfulness. If you are involved with another person while
being in a relationship, it amounts to infidelity and disloyalty. Whether or
not you confess to your partner about your disloyalty, it amounts to guilt and
disrespect to your spouse.
The ‘digital’ desire
– Facebook, whatsapp, instagram have become an integral part of our lives but
that doesn’t mean that you post or discuss about your relationship status with
the whole world. The temptation to talk about every aspect of your relationship
on the digital
platform may not only irk your friends and
relatives but can soon change your relationship status from ‘dating’ to ‘single’.
The ‘Ex’ factor – An
open relationship is all about being honest and straightforward that implies mentioning
about your past relationships too. The temptation to talk about your ex ‘in
excess’ indicates that you are incapable of letting bygones be bygones. Focus
on your present relationship and appreciate the finer traits in your partner
instead of comparing his/her mannerisms, style or behavior with your ex.
Taking things too fast-
The right ingredients for a successful relationship are sincerity,
commitment and conviction. A man and a woman should be willing to invest enough
time and patience to make their relationship work. Single men and women who ‘believe’
they are in love seem to be in a great hurry nowadays to take their
relationship to a next level. This temptation to take things too fast is
unlikely to transform into a ‘happily ever after’ scenario.
Please
remember that if relationships dangle on thin threads of temptations, it’s
bound to disintegrate.
In
my next blog, I will write my musings on temptations faced by married couples.
