To my understanding the definition of relationship is how well you
relate with each other. Commonness has to be there to cherish a
relationship. If there is no common factor between the two, it will be
very difficult to create a synergy. Hence, you have to evolve yourself
to develop a common factor where in the role of adaptability or certain
degree of understanding comes into picture.
Of late, the present generation suffers from a mental block of being
independent or proclaiming that they know everything. Once you develop
such a mental block of being independent and also the feeling of I am
better than you, obviously the relationship quadrant goes for a perish
instead of cherish. There are several other factors both external and
internal that define our relationship. External factors can range from
work pressure, peer pressure, addiction to gadgets to alcohol and
substance abuse. Surprisingly, these issues can be resolved with timely
intervention from a rehabilitation centre or a professional. But, what
about the internal factors? Lack of understanding, love, compassion and
respect can put an end to a relationship. If you want a relationship to
cherish and withstand the test of time, then start by understanding
yourself rather than expecting others to read your mind like a book! I
want my relationship to be like this or these are the things I detest in
a relationship-By clearing articulating your thoughts, you will be able
to bridge the gap between expectations and reality. One of the leading
causes for a relationship to fail is a massive gap between expectations
and reality. So, if you want your partner to have certain traits like
respecting elders, financial independence, equality of sexes etc then
it’s prudent you too adhere to these tenets. Set realistic expectations
for each other so that relationships cherish and grow in strength with
each passing day.
When we say cherish that itself means to nurture, to have warmth, to
have understanding, over and above to be contented and to enjoy the
feeling of being together. It has to be unconditional and with a
Philosophy of forgive and forget. Anger and argument is basically the
salt and pepper to enjoy the relationship, otherwise relationship
feeling would be more of a dry and a dead one.
Hence if you want to turn your relationship into a happy one, then
put in all the right ingredients, but as indicated do not add
unnecessary conditions instead substitute conditions with understanding
and see your relationship cherish!
